I am constantly second guessing myself. Can I really learn AWS and pass the certification exam? Can I handle working in tech and deal with real clients? Did I put one teaspoon or two teaspoons of baking powder in this cookie batter? Will these cookies taste like cardboard??
The point is oftentimes I feel like I’m not good enough. This feeling never comes from professors, or mentors, or toddlers (who can be particularly cruel). It comes from me. I am my biggest and worst critic.
It was refreshing to see my favorite internet young person tackle this feeling in his latest video.
It’s so easy to get caught up in your shortcomings that you forget that you (we, me all of us) are works in progress. There are going to be growing pains. In order to get good at something, we have to push through the discomfort of being a novice until we can reach expert level.
This Medium article really gave me some perspective on not feeling good enough.
“Turn down the volume of your negative inner voice and create a nurturing inner voice to take it’s place. When you make a mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on instead of obsessing about it. Equally important, don’t allow anyone else to dwell on your mistakes or shortcomings or to expect perfection from you.” ― Beverly Engel
The writer Thomas Oppong says that the best way to shut down your inner critic, is to basically dare yourself be better than your inner shortcomings. don’t be afraid to fail, or get things wrong and don’t stop until you prove that inner voice wrong. This dials back to a post I wrote about an Ira Glass quote a few months back. The gist of that quote and the essence of Nathan’s video is to make some trash everyday, until you get better. Fail at some things everyday until your and expert and then your inner voice will have to shut up. No one can argue with an expert. Right?!?!